Verena Koop: There are tons of variations of the "wedding". A wedding is important because it is what kicks off a marriage, but I think you mean is the church/big white wedding/banquet hall type of thing important. To me, that answer is no, not really. In some families, the whole big wedding thing is hugely important, and that isn't wrong, it's not not what I happen to believe.We had a small beach wedding with 33 people-great fun. Other people head to the courthouse and have a lunch afterwards, while still others have the whole big thing. What really matters is that BOTH of the people are happy with the sort of wedding they're having, because the do-over because they wanted to get married immediately but later regret not having a "real" wedding is in terribly poor taste....Show more
Christiane Cattano: They're only important if they're important to you. A wedding ceremony no matter where you have it is still a wedding ceremony, even if it's at the courthouse. But th! e whole large wedding is not important in the grand scheme of things- weddings are a day, a marriage is (hopefully) for a lifetime. If there are two people desiring to be married without a big planned wedding, a quick courthouse marriage seems like the way to go. I personally thought the wedding ceremony was very important- it was the part where we made lifelong promises to each other, but it didn't matter where or how we said those things, just that we said them and meant them. I would say the ceremony is very important, however that doesn't mean it's important to go all out and have a large wedding, it's important to have the kind of ceremony you want- whether that be eloping, the courthouse, or a 500 person church ceremony....Show more
Miguel Koczela: We aren't the only culture that places huge significant on the wedding ceremony. In india for example, the bride is decked out so ornately and extravagantly and families arrange huge gatherings and performances spann! ing over the week if the wedding. I read once that they feel t! he purpose of the wedding, the beautification of the bride, all the festivities leading up to a climactic moment of " I do" is meant to jump start the marriage. It's a day or time in the couples lives they will always remember.... Even on their worst days... The creation of the memory of a gorgeous bride and groom being joined together before everyone that's important in their lives lasts forever.This is not to say that eloping is less special. To each their own. for me i wanted the wedding, the church, the first loom moment, the words of the Priest... It made me feel very "married"...Show more
Kim Gerbino: A lot of people choice to elope and get off and get married with only the two of themThat is fine for that coupleSome couples do not want a huge wedding, but a few close family and friendsSome people do have a small wedding in front of family and friendsThey want to share their ceremony with them, but they do not want a huge wedding and receptionThey have a meal a! fter and cake, maybe 2 hours at most...Show more
Dawn Saha: Our wedding was small, and a long time ago. But I can tell you that it is an important rite of passage, and I loved having friends and family get together and give us good wishes. It made me feel that the fact that I had a big change in my life was important to the people I knew. We didn't have a lot of the traditional things because we were young and poor, so - no engagement ring, no honeymoon, no photographer, etc. But the things that we did have I cherished - the long white dress, the cake, the gifts, etc. I think that if we'd worn jeans, and gone to a justice of the peace, I would have regretted it later....Show more
Augustus Sarria: Many people just go down to city hall with a few family or friends and let a judge marry them. Saves time and a ton of money. You're not obligated to have a big ceremony. The only two people who decide are the ones getting married.
Idell Mulliniks: If you are! not going to have a wedding, how are you going to be married?And pleas! e do not say 'elope'. That confers no status upon you any more than taking the same bus route home.
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